Right in Front of You

Often we ask a question and fail to realize that the answer is right in front of us and has been presented. The problem lies within us not wanting that particular answer.

This scenario was presented to me by a young man: His girlfriend gave him the ultimatum, he had thirty days to choose between his job or her. I said you already know the answer.  If you quit your job and choose her, then how will we survive. To me that one is a no brainer. He replied that he will pray on it. My response: okay you pray and ask God to change her heart and mind concerning this issue. What if God doesn’t change her heart? What then?

I do understand when you are in a relationship you have invested time, but don’t forget to remember there is always an answer it just may not be the one you hoped for. A lot of times somethings just aren’t meant to be and we as humans try to make things work regardless.

In counseling some of the young girls in this new generation they want their partners to be at home with them 24/7 and that puzzles me, because if he doesn’t work and you don’t work how will the bills get paid.

Just think about the prayers you prayed did you already receive an answer and it’s just not the one you wanted?

Don’t forget to remember, the answer is already presented it is up to you to choose.





You Have Grown!

I was speaking with a friend the other day and we were discussing change and growth. I often wondered why when you begin to move upward others seem to think you believe you are better than them.

This is the response she gave to me:

It is not that you think you are better than them. It is you all where in a circle, your circle has grown (mind) and they are still stuck. You have come out and have recognized that there is more to life.


I am thankful for the journey with the friends that I have and had, but as life revolves people come and go.

Life is about seasons and I have learned over the years that there are friends in your life for seasons. I believe when ones season is up another person will replace them, hoping they too as you will see beyond the inner circle.



The Power of Negative Energy

When making changes in life, sometimes you have to be careful whom you share your thoughts. I’ve learned over the past few years that sometimes the ones you think would really have your back turn out to be the worst of enemies.

We all are different and not all have the same aspirations in life, but it’s important to connect with those that have a vision, or headed in the direction of progress and change.

There is sometimes coveting, envy and jealousy in relationships that will come to surface just from a change. Then you wonder how could they have been in my presence all this time praying and telling me you  hope everything comes together, and once the breakthrough happens their intent changes.

Also everybody that say they are in your corner may not be.

When the conversation changes to: You know I wouldn’t do that if I were you; I don’t want that type of car just a waste of money; That’s just too much house for two people; Why you leaving your job, you know the economy is too bad to make a change. Those are some of the many negative reactions I have gotten from just sharing my next chapter and plans with some pretty close friends.

You see, some people don’t like change and therefore don’t want you to change. It’s not that I think I’m better than anyone, but our desires may not coincide with their desires.

Therefore, you have to break away from the negative thoughts others send your way and especially in your presence. Negative energy is just as powerful as positive energy.

Just remember some people are in your life for a season and when you go up and they don’t want to come it’s time to severer the ties that bind.